Embarrassment?

Yah, I am pretty sure all of us don't like to feel this way, especially you are in the public, with all eyes looking at you. In their minds, they may wonder what is going on and what is wrong with you. At that moment, you just hope that there is a hole right in front of you for you to jump in and hide your face inside ... wahahaha ...

Last monday, I was out to lunch with my family. Everything was ok and I was trying to mind my own business while walking to the restuarant [I just woke up not more than one hour ago =)]. Suddenly, a young couple, with a baby child, caught my attention. They were quarrelling loudly, despite the fact that they were in a shopping centre.

If you are me, what will you do?
1. Continue staring while walking
2. Not to look and mind your business while continue walking

I would choose the latter option as I guess if I am in their position, I won't feel good at all as I am making a scene in a crowded area and getting all the "attention".

But my mum chosed otherwise. When I tried to ask her not to look, she scolded me instead and said, "What are eyes for?!" :{ Therefore, I come to a conclusion that perhaps this is the reason why she doesn't mind quarrelling with me in public area ... I must confess she is rather loud ... haha ... and it is really very embarassing for me ...

Last night on 5 ...

"You should know the truth. ... ... I have been waiting for you for the last five years. I have not dated any single man. ... ..."

I guess that is a feeling everyone is seeking every now and then, something we call
L-O-V-E ... ... LOVE.

It is truly a long wait, 5 years, and she knew him for only a night. ONS ... One Night Stand to be exact.

Does she has any feeling for him? Yes, I believe she does.

Love can't be measured by how long they know each other but by how much they feel for each other.

Waiting is a long, painful process.
Waiting for someone whom you are not certain when he will be back is even worse.

But I guess it will be better off to wait for someone rather than waiting for a relationship ... I guess this is hope and this is also love ...

The 90/10 Principle

The 90/10 Principle
Have you read this before?
Author : Stephen Covey ( Management Guru)

Discover the 90/10 Principle. It will change your life (at least the way>you react to situations).

What is this principle?10% of life is made up of what happens to you. 90% of life is decided by how you react.

What does this mean? We really have no control over 10% of what happens to us. We cannot stop the car from breaking down. The plane will be late arriving, which throws our whole schedule off. A driver may cut us off in traffic. We have no control over this 10%. The other 90% is different. You determine the other 90%. How?

By your reaction. You cannot control a red light, but you can control your>reaction. Don't let people fool you; YOU can control how you react.

Let's use an example. You are eating breakfast with your family. Your daughter knocks over a cup of coffee onto your business shirt. You have no control over what just what happened. What happens when the next will be determined by how you react. You curse. You harshly scold your daughter for knocking the cup over. She breaks down in tears. After scolding her, you turn to your spouse and criticize her for placing the cup too close to the edge of the table. A short verbal battle follows. You storm upstairs and change your shirt. Back downstairs, you find your daughter has been too busy crying to finish breakfast and get ready for school. She misses the bus. Your spouse must leave immediately for work. You rush to the car and drive your daughter to>school. Because you are late, you drive 40 miles an hour in a 30 mph speed limit. After a 15-minut e delay and throwing $60 traffic fine away, you arrive at school. Your daughter runs into the building without saying goodbye. After arriving at the office 20 minutes late, you find you forgot your briefcase. Your day has started terrible. As it continues, it seems to get worse and worse. You look forward to coming home, When you arrive home, you find small wedge in your relationship with your spouse and daughter. Why?

Because of how you reacted in the morning. Why did you have a bad day?

A) Did the coffee cause it?
B) Did your daughter cause it?
C) Did the policeman cause it?
D) Did you cause it?

The answer is " D". You had no control over what happened with the coffee. How you reacted in those 5 seconds is what caused your bad day. Here is what could have and should have happened.

Coffee splashes over you. Your daughter is about to cry. You gently say,"It's ok honey, you just need, to be more careful next time". Grabbing a towel you rush upstairs. After grabbing a new shirt and your briefcase, you come back down in time to look through the window and see your child getting on the bus. She turns and waves. You arrive 5 minutes early and cheerfully greet the staff. Your boss comments on how good the day you are having. Notice the difference?

Two different scenarios. Both started the same. Both ended different. Why? Because of how you REACTED. You really do not have any control over 10% of what happens. The other 90%>was determined by your reaction.

Here are some ways to apply the 90/10 principle. If someone says something negative about you, don't be a sponge. Let the attack roll off like water on glass. You don't have to let the negative comment affect you! React properly and it will not ruin your day. A wrong reaction could result in losing a friend, being fired, getting stressed out etc. How do you react if someone cuts you off in traffic? Do you lose your temper? Pound on the steering wheel? A friend of mine had the steering wheel fall off. Do you curse? Does your blood pressure skyrocket? Do you try and bump them? WHO CARES if you arrive ten seconds later at work? Why let the cars ruin your drive?

Remember the 90/10 principle, and do not worry about it. You are told you lost your job. Why lose sleep and get irritated? It will work out. Use your worrying energy and time into finding another job. The plane is late; it is going to mangle your schedule for the day. Why take out your frustration on the flight attendant? She has no control over what is going on! Use your time to study, get to know the other passenger. Why get stressed out? It will just make things worse.

Now you know the 90-10 principle. Apply it and you will be amazed at the results. You will lose nothing if you try it. The 90-10 principle is incredible. Very few know and apply this principle. The result?

Millions of people are suffering from undeserved stress, trials, problems>and heartache. There never seem to be a success in life. Bad days follow bad days. Terrible things seem to be constantly happening. There is constant stress, lack of joy, and broken relationships. Worry consumes time. Anger breaks friendships and life seems dreary and is not enjoyed to the fullest! Friends are lost. Life is a bore and often seems cruel. Does this describe you? If so, do not be discouraged. You can be different! Understand and apply the 90/10 principle. It CAN change your life.........!!!!!!!

Think Positive: I am thankful ... This is nice - finding positive out of every negative - which we don't always manage to do. I am thankful...

1. For the husband who snores all night, because he is at home asleep with me and not with someone else.
2. For my teenage daughter who is complaining about doing dishes, because that means she is at home & not on the streets.
3. For the taxes that I pay because it means I am employed.
4. For the mess to clean after a party because it means I have been surrounded by friends.
5. For the clothes that fit a little too snug because it means I have enough to eat.
6. For my shadow that watches me work because it means I am out in the sunshine.
7. For a floor that needs mopping, and windows that need cleaning because it means I have a home.
8. For all the complaining I hear about the government because it means that we have freedom of speech.
9. For the parking spot I find at the far end of the parking lot because it means I am capable of walking and that I have been blessed with transportation.
10. For the noise I have to bear from my neighbours because it means that I can hear.
11. For the pile of laundry and ironing because it means I have clothes to wear.
12. For weariness and aching muscles at the end of the day because it means I have been capable of working hard.
13. For the alarm that goes off in the early morning hours because it means that I am still alive.
AND FINALLY ....... for posting this because it means I have friends who are thinking of me and sending me an email, at least.

HAVE A NICE DAY! ... ...

What did I do last Xmas?

Nothing much for this Xmas ...

I went to meet my god bro for lunch. He is really a nice guy but too bad, he is attached ... Then I went to church and had our yearly Gift Exchange. This year, my close gal friend was the one who picked my name. She gave me a pair of earrings (sterling sliver ... not cheap hor) and a name magnet, which tells me what my name means (Please see previous posting) ... Love it ... =)

After that, we set off to my friend's place in Seng Kang for dinner and gathering, had birthday celebration and of course, some yu xin jie mu - MAHJONG ... I won for the first session =) and lost quite abit for the second session so in total, I only won a little but better than nothing as I am not the one who is losing hahaha ... We played from 24 Dec 05, 9+ pm till 25 Dec 05, 6+ am. I thought I would fall asleep during the games (as I normally sleep at 10+ or 11+ pm everyday) but guess what, I didn't ... hahahaha

Anyway, this is how I celebrated my Xmas this year, simple but yet fun. Hope for a better Xmas next year where I will spend with someone dear and close, but provided ... I have found the right one ... =D



Sidetrack:
Before we left my friend's place in the morning, around 7+ am, something horrifying (or I must say least expected) happened. The floor in the living room, where we placed our mahjong table, started to pop up after we cleared up the things.

Though we heard some sound in the middle of the night while playing mahjong, but we dismissed that as sound of cockroaches or lizards. Never did we expected that it would be the popping sound ... Anyway, my friend did take some photos when the event occured and also told us that his neighbour had the same encounter before.

So in conclusion, if you experience the same thingy in the future, please do not panic. Just call the HDB for help. If not, just don't buy a HDB flat, that's all ... wahahahaha ...

my name ...

Yesterday, my close friend gave me a name magnet as a gift and this is what is written on it:

Jason

Origin: Greek
Meaning: Healer*

Characteristics:
Suggests a cute, athletic, personable, amusing, popular and possibly NOTTI guy.


aaaaaaaa ... ... it is somehow quiet true ... haha ... =D


*One that heals or attempts to heal, especially a faith healer.

Merry Xmas ... ho ho ho ...

I have been single for half a year so this Xmas, I will still be spending with my friends ...

Anyway, I guess no harm being single for the moment ... as I have better stuffs to look forwards to in 2006 ... =)

Sorry ... ...

Sorry ... I'm really sorry ...

This is one song sung by Hong Kong singer, William Su, and its song title is [Sorry]. By saying sorry, does it really help in salvaging the whole situation? Or is it "sorry; no cure"?

In any circumstance, we always find difficulty to say this word.

For a proud man to realise his mistake, he first need to humble himself.
For a mum to realise her mistake, she first need to be open towards her child.
For a stubborn man to realise his mistake, he first need to fail totaly or terribly in life.

... ....

Yes, saying sorry does make one feel better. But repeating his mistake(s) again after apologising again and again, it doesn't make any difference. Though one may not feel pissed but I am sure he will feel disappointed / let down, especially when it comes to love.

A: Don't put so much hope on me as I may not be able to live up to it.
B: Love yourself more, even in a relationship.
C: Don't put too much effort on someone.


I don't think I would want to be in a relationship if that is the case as it is really a waste of time.

But think again ... we are still not yet together ... I guess ... I am just too emotional and too sensitive and too "focus" mah ...

Quoted from Tiramisu

Man* are fools ...

especially they think they are always right and have a mind set of their own. They think they choose the right path, make the right decision, but in the end, all are wrong and these make them look like fools. Most of the time, man are selfish. They will just push the responsibility, saying they have no choice but this is excuse not to fact the situation ... Man ... heartless creatures ... ?

*referring to males in here

Lovers tend to start off passionately, then later part start blaming each other, quarrelling and finally, end up becoming enemies ...

Yes, this is part of growing up in life but not necessarily you will become enemies. It depends on how you handle the whole situation, esp. the breakup and also whether you have hurt your another half deeply during the process. Though I still believe in being friends after we break up, but I guess it takes two to clap so no point lor if the other person is not keen ... right?

Love is ...

Love is not just looking into each other's eyes, but looking outwards together in the same direction!

How true ...

Proven ...

I guess it is always good to let your hair down once in a while ... It has been quite sometimes, like half a year, since I stepped into HAPPY again.

Music quite ok ... not that fantastic ... but the company was great ... got to know a few new friends ... Also have my fair share of flirting last night haha ... =)

Anyway, not sure when I will club again ... see my mood mah ... wahahaha ...

Ohhhhhhh No ... I have eaten the "forbidden food"

Don't know whether it is right or wrong ... but always curious and this is way before I got to know Jon tried it ...

Perhaps the right time and the right person ... or perhaps these are all excuses ... anyway, just tried alittle last night and it was really nice and fascinating ... SO H...

Not sure whether I will try again ... but one thing for sure, I need to behave myself ... hehehehe ...

Tiramisu ...

Dessert or channel 5 local production ... anyway, I love it both ...

Sweet and delicious as a dessert ... romantic, touching and heartfelt when watching ...

If I am Louis, will I choose 28 or 42? Young, cute, and sporty or mature, steady and secure??



But it is only if I get to choose ...



Is it a flirt or something more than to meet the eye? Is it ok to start of with SEX before everything?

Why is he back for her? Is it true that he have feeling for her after that night, or even before that?



I guess I will be like Louis, to wait for him to msg and call ... Perhaps he is not like that 28 yo guy after all ...

Thank you ... I am fine!

Phew ... guess I am just TOO paranoid when it comes to medical checkup. Perhaps I don't wish to die so early as I have too many undone business in this world, or in another words, I am a KIA SEE fellow. haha

Anyway, I guess, after this checkup, I should and must change my lifestyle ... Hope I can do it =)

Will it be my FINAL verdict ... ?

No matter what result you are waiting for, you will tend to be very nervous as you don't know what the outcome will be ... Can you handle it? What will you do next?

Especially when your medical result is not out yet as this may determine your life and death.

But I have already made my decision and hope everything will be fine for me ... *Cross fingers*

The REAL me ...

You've got great self-confidence and you're full of charm. Most guys who get to know you will be attracted to you. You are far from sweet and proper; your intriguing personality fascinates them. Most guys find it easy to fall for a girl like you.

You really care about other people's feelings and are quite serious about the issues that affect your life. You are sincere, and your concern for the well-being of others makes many people want to be your friend.

You are a bright, cheerful and bubbly person. You are thoughtful and considerate, and like to have fun. Everybody feels comfortable around you because of your pleasant nature. When you walk into a room, people's eyes are likely to be drawn to you because of your charm.

Your peers think of you as a fun person, but sometimes you can be a little irresponsible. You can be somewhat childish, and can try to ignore the fact that you will one day need to really grow up and be a mature adult! Perhaps you could start reading good books; they might help you look at the world in a different light. You do want to be taken seriously, right?

Your boyfriend believes that you are a strong and independent person. Your confidence and cheerfulness make you an attractive person to be around, but sometimes you need to pay more attention to what other people, including your boyfriend, are thinking.

Quite true and I will try to change for the better ... =)
http://quizbox.com/personality/test81.aspx

Get to know yourself better ...

Your view on yourself:

You are intelligent, honest and sweet. You are friendly to everybody and don't like conflict. Because you're so cheerful and fun people are naturally attracted to you and like to talk to you.

The type of girlfriend/boyfriend you are looking for:

You are not looking merely for a girl/boyfriend - you are looking for your life partner. Perhaps you should be more open-minded about who you spend time with. The person you are looking for might hide their charm under their exterior.

Your readiness to commit to a relationship:

You are ready to commit as soon as you meet the right person. And you believe you will pretty much know as soon as you might that person.

The seriousness of your love:

You like to flirt and behave seductively. The opposite sex finds this very attractive, and that's why you'll always have admirers hanging off your arms. But how serious are you about choosing someone to be in a relationship with?

Your views on education:

You may not like to study but you have many practical ideas. You listen to your own instincts and tend to follow your heart, so you will probably end up with an unusual job.

The right job for you:

You have many goals and want to achieve as much as you can. The jobs you enjoy are those that let you burn off your considerable excess energy.

How do you view success:

You are confident that you will be successful in your chosen career and nothing will stop you from trying.

What are you most afraid of:

You are afraid of things that you cannot control. Sometimes you show your anger to cover up how you feel.

Who is your true self:

You are full of energy and confidence. You are unpredictable, with moods changing as quickly as an ocean. You might occasionally be calm and still, but never for long.

Do you think I am like this?!
http://quizbox.com/personality/test82.aspx

Looking forwards to my future ...

Perhaps I am fated to be single for a while ... one year, 5 years, or even 10 years ... haha

Anyway, I should do something for my future now instead of thinking of dating, dating and dating although love is a MUST thingy but not everything though. =)

It is weekend ... ENJOY, my friends ...